Social Media Friends Don’t Owe You Anything

Do you feel bad when your FB post gets just a few likes while you have a thousand friends?

Do you feel rejected when your singing and dancing videos do not get the heart reactions or the thumbs up?

Do you feel hurt when some people don’t greet you on your birthday even if FB has notified them?

Do you feel aggrieved when some friends decline to follow  your page or  channel?

Do you feel that people are unfair because you’ve been an ideal social media friend, with your consistent likes and follows — and yet they don’t reciprocate your efforts?

And do you openly express your gripes  with “ So many friends, and yet very few likes.”

If you do—I have two words for you.


First of all, friends on social media don’t owe you anything. They are free and can do as they please when it comes to interaction. They can choose to give you a “ like”, or they can choose to scroll you over.  They can even choose to unfollow you and to block you. It’s their call.  Social media users should not feel pressured to act and react in a certain way.  They should not be burdened by thoughts that someone out there would feel bad because they did not click the mouse or tap an emoji.

Second of all, social media should not be used to gauge affection. It is not fair to judge people’s feelings for you by what they do or not do on social media. Users have different ways of consuming social media. For some, it may be a vehicle for expressing their affection. But for others, it is a public space where intimate and sacred emotions should not be displayed.  

How many times have I come across this line:  “ Let me see who reads this up to the end.” Or,  “ I want to see how many of you really know me .” Really? You are now TESTING people’s sincerity through Facebook?  A person can read every word of your post and still be your worst hater. A person can re-send to you that nice flower you sent to her (and twenty other people), and still betray you.  And a person can totally ignore your face on her news feed, and still be your best friend in real life.

Stop being so juvenile on social media. Be mature enough to accept people’s freedom to engage with posts. On the other hand, you decide how you feel about the lack of attention and reaction. And be reminded that it’s an entirely different world. You don’t live there, and neither do your real friends.

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